Toxic Relationship Test — Free Warning-Signs Assessment Online

How to take the TRP

1. 1

   Open the Toxic Relationship Test in the Mindtalk app

   Tap "Take the Toxic Relationship Test" to open the assessment. You will need a free Mindtalk account.

2. 2

   Answer items about your current relationship dynamics

   For each statement, rate how well it describes your relationship. Answer honestly, based on the actual pattern rather than what you wish were true.

3. 3

   Get your warning-signs profile

   Receive your warning-signs profile and personalised recommendations. If high concern flags, the app routes you to specialist support and safety planning resources.

Frequently Asked Questions

What makes a relationship "toxic"?

Toxic relationships are patterns that consistently damage wellbeing, safety, or sense of self. Common features: chronic disrespect and contempt (John Gottman's research identifies contempt as the strongest predictor of divorce); control (over your movement, money, appearance, contact with others); isolation from friends and family; gaslighting (making you doubt your own perception of reality); intimate partner violence (verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, or financial). Not the same as difficult phases or normal conflict — toxic patterns are chronic and often escalating.

Are all difficult relationships toxic?

No. All relationships have conflict, difficult phases, and periods of misalignment. This is normal and not toxic. Toxic patterns are distinct: they are chronic (persistent over time), pervasive (affect many dimensions of the relationship), damaging (consistently harm your wellbeing or safety), and often escalating (get worse rather than better with time). Difficult conversations that lead to repair are healthy; recurring cycles of harm followed by superficial reconciliation are not.

What are the warning signs?

Common warning signs: (1) You constantly walk on eggshells around your partner; (2) You have stopped seeing friends and family because of partner reactions; (3) Your partner controls or monitors your money, phone, movements; (4) Your partner regularly puts you down, insults you, or expresses contempt; (5) You are afraid of your partner's reactions; (6) You have been physically, sexually, or verbally harmed; (7) Your partner gaslights (denies things you know happened, makes you doubt your memory); (8) Your partner threatens you, your children, or your pets; (9) Your partner uses jealousy or "love" as an excuse for controlling behaviour. Any single sign is worth attention; multiple signs together strongly suggest toxic pattern.

What if my partner won''t change?

A hard truth: you cannot make someone change. What you can do is: (1) Understand the pattern clearly so you can make informed decisions; (2) Build your own support system independent of the relationship; (3) Work on your own attachment patterns ([Attachment Style Test](/assessments/attachment-style-test)) that may keep you in cycles; (4) Plan for safety if there is any physical, sexual, or escalating threat; (5) Make decisions about staying, changing the terms, or leaving from a place of clarity rather than fear or hope alone. Individual therapy is often the highest-leverage step even when the other person won't engage.

What about intimate partner violence?

Intimate partner violence (IPV) affects roughly 30% of women globally at some point (WHO data). It includes physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse. It is chronically under-reported and under-recognised. If you are experiencing any IPV, please contact a domestic violence support service — in India: iCall (9152987821), Sneha (044-24640050 Chennai), Sakhi One Stop Centres (state-level, contact your state helpline), or Vandrevala Foundation (1860 2662 345). Safety planning is the first step, before any relationship-focused work.

Should I stay or leave?

That decision is yours and depends on many factors — safety, children, financial dependence, family context, cultural dynamics, extent of pattern. What matters most: making the decision from clarity rather than fear or hope alone. Work with a therapist who understands relationship dynamics and, if safety is a concern, a domestic violence support service. Leaving is often the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship — safety planning matters if you are considering it.

How do I take the Toxic Relationship Test?

Click "Take the Toxic Relationship Test". Complete the items (3-4 minutes), receive your warning-signs profile with recommendations. If safety is a concern, please contact a crisis line before continuing.